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Relationship Conflict - Sorted.

In this transformative course, you will learn how an why conflict escalates through the lens of Family Systems Theory. Understand how complaints escalate to conflict, the science of a perfect apology, dive into the Couples Toolkit and the Communication Box to find tools videos and activities all designed to help grow healthy relationshipsĀ 

I want less conflict!

Transforming Relationship Tension into Togetherness

Dive into expertly curated modules, each presented in a concise 15-minute video format, complete with engaging visuals and diagrams. Empower yourself with profound insights and tools to navigate the intricate dance of relationships, ensuring you're equipped to foster stronger, more meaningful connections. The S.O.F.T. Approach: My signature method that simplifies the complexities of differentiation, ensuring you grasp the core of relationship dynamics. Decoding Relationship Patterns: Uncover the hidden patterns that often lead to conflicts and discover strategies to harmonize and balance these dynamics. Triangles in Relationships: Discover how external factors or third parties can become sources of tension and distraction in relationships.

$69.00 USD

Grounded Parenting: An Anti Anxiety Course For Parents

$67.00 USD

You deserve to enjoy parenting, free from worry and filled with confidence.

Don't let anxiety, worry or that overwhelming urgency to protect your child get in the way of their development and your ability to relax and enjoy a healthy, fulfilling parent relationship.

Grounded Parenting addresses some of the core components of parenting anxiety:

- Creating the ideal environment for healthy development

- Setting limits and boundaries

- Creating deeper connection without anxiety

 

Family Systems Techniques

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An Introduction To Circular Questioning

I have found that circular questioning can be incredibly effective in family therapy sessions and I really with I had discovered this technique when I first started working with families. The idea behind using this technique in the first few sessions is that you can identify how various family members interact to sustain or exacerbate the problem that they are coming to see you for. Without this technique up my sleeve, it would take me much longer to identify what was going on - I would get lost in the content or confused by conflicting opinions. This video will help you stay on track and provide you with many examples of the types of questions I ask. There's a PDF to download with all the questions I ask on it so you don't have to take notes in the video.

$9.99 USD

Enmeshment: Helping Teenage Clients Differentiate.

Therapy with teens can be challenging when there are signs of family enmeshment, but you only have access to one person in the family. There are a few ways to use family systems therapy in your work with an individual teen to help with enmeshment and differentiation, and this is one of the techniques that we use frequently.  The activity helps clients see if they are having the same thoughts, feelings and behaviors as a family member, and gives them the option to decide to keep them or not. 

$5.99 USD

Ready To Change Your Relationship? The Check-In, Check-List Activity

One of the foundational solutions I offer couples seeking relationship help is The Check-In, Check-List, a weekly structured exercise that guides couples through 10 questions to improve communication and lower tension. The Check-List is rooted in gratitude and positivity, forcing couples to shift their mindset around the relationship to one of growth and abundance 

$9.99 USD

The Check-In Check-List Activity For Couples

 

The tried and tested weekly check-in exercise.

 

The Check-In Check-List is a structured activity to complete with your partner that sets the tone for the week ahead, while rebuilding intimacy, connection and improving connection.

This Check-List has four main goals and over time will shift your relationship by targeting these relationship dynamics:

  • Gratitude
  • Communication
  • Accountability
  • Integrity

It's a series of 10 questions that you ask yourself and your partner and share answers to. The procedure around answering questions, reflecting on them and sharing is designed to deepen your understanding and feelings toward each other, over time. 

The m.y.s.e.l.f Journal & Workbook

This is the book I wish I'd written when I was running residential treatment centers for teens. I would have loved to have given copies to both teens and their parents as it's packed with 52 skills and tools that everyone (not just adolescents) need to navigate the world and be successful.

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Featured Courses

Family Projections Activity: Understanding Your Client's Family

This activity was created when working with a family who had difficulty in sharing personal experiences of being in the relationship with each other. In particular one of the teens was unable to tell his family verbally what he was experiencing with regards to academic pressure from his parents. This activity allowed both him and his sibling to share with their parents how they felt. The result was impactful and provocative in all the right ways - a family that had difficulty sharing with me, all of a sudden became animated as if this was the catalyst needed for them to talk more.  This was also used to great effect in a Multifamily group in which parents and teens were able to share and ask each other questions  

$5.99 USD

The Teen Timeline Chart

The timeline chart is an incredible tool to learn about your client's life experiences, from the traumatic and stressful, to the positive and successful. This is not intended to replace a thorough clinical intake, but to supplement one and to engage clients in a visual representation of their experiences. Furthermore, this is an overly simplified method of collecting data that should inform your intake process or add to what you have already ascertained from the client. If you are using this in the beginning of treatment, resist diving into any significant trauma and focus instead on gaining a broad overview of events and situations. 

$9.99 USD

Tools For Therapists

Building Rapport With Teens: How To Get Teens To Talk In Therapy

I have found that approaching the first sessions with a teenager the same way I would handle a session with an adult client sometimes leads to resistance or at least sessions in which I have to work much harder than I am used to. Our training often encourages us to start with the presenting problem and move into background information - perhaps a BioPsychoSocial perspective or Family Of Origin depending on your orientation, the key to getting teens to talk in therapy is to avoid this common pitfall.  This product comes with an explanatory video and a 10 page e-book on working with teens, which includes some of my favorite questions to ask adolescent clients. 

$9.99 USD

Family Projections Activity: Understanding Your Client's Family

This activity was created when working with a family who had difficulty in sharing personal experiences of being in the relationship with each other. In particular one of the teens was unable to tell his family verbally what he was experiencing with regards to academic pressure from his parents. This activity allowed both him and his sibling to share with their parents how they felt. The result was impactful and provocative in all the right ways - a family that had difficulty sharing with me, all of a sudden became animated as if this was the catalyst needed for them to talk more.  This was also used to great effect in a Multifamily group in which parents and teens were able to share and ask each other questions  

$5.99 USD

The Teen Timeline Chart

The timeline chart is an incredible tool to learn about your client's life experiences, from the traumatic and stressful, to the positive and successful. This is not intended to replace a thorough clinical intake, but to supplement one and to engage clients in a visual representation of their experiences. Furthermore, this is an overly simplified method of collecting data that should inform your intake process or add to what you have already ascertained from the client. If you are using this in the beginning of treatment, resist diving into any significant trauma and focus instead on gaining a broad overview of events and situations. 

$9.99 USD

An Introduction to FORT-ified Relationships

Welcome to the introductory level of FORTified Relationships - s Family Systems informed approach to parenting and growing great relationships. In this course, I will outline some of the key principles of Family Systems and provide you with some practical tools and guides to improving your relationships.

$24.99 USD

Words That Work: A Couples Communication Course

Are you and your partner speaking the same language, but somehow missing each other's meaning?Ā 

Or perhaps conversations turn into conflict? I've been a couples and family therapist for close to a decade, and I know that 90% of the couples I work with identify 'communication' as a problem they want my help with. I applaud anyone who goes to couples therapy or buys a book or a course like this on it because the sad truth is we never get taught the specific tools that make the difference between talking and truly connecting.

Words That Work is an online course that teaches you practical, proven techniques to improve how you and your partner communicate, and I know that it works because I teach the same thing to couples in my private practice.Ā 

Some Of What You'll Learn:

  • Why certain words and phrases trigger defensiveness (and what to say instead)

  • How to express needs and feelings in ways your partner can actually hear

  • Practical techniques for better listening and understanding

  • Tools to navigate disagreements without damaging your connection

  • Ways to create more emotional safety in your conversations

Words That Work

I wanted to make the most practical, helpful couples communication course possible to help you grow great relationships. This course will absolutely add new tools to your communication toolkit and it will also help you understand when to use them. It's filled with the same knowledge I share with my clients in private practice, so I know that these can make a difference.  Whether you're dealing with everyday miscommunications or trying to have those deeper conversations, you'll learn specific language and techniques that help create better understanding, closer connections and a more rich and satisfying life together. 

$39.99 USD