MOST PARENTS WORRY ABOUT THEIR TEEN OR TWEEN AT SOME POINT. 

 

AT MY PEOPLE PATTERNS, WE CREATE THE TOOLS THAT GROW GREAT RELATIONSHIPS, SO THAT YOU AND YOUR FAMILY CAN HAVE A LITTLE BIT LESS STRESS. 

 

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STEP ONE

Take The Parenting Quiz

Our fun and easy quiz might provide some insight into your parenting styles. Join our email list after to receive tips and information on parenting teens and tweens.Ā 

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STEP TWO

Buy The m.y.s.e.l.f Journal

Support your teen or tween and My People Patterns by buying the m.y.s.e.l.f workbook and journal. It's packed with 52 therapeutic skills and tools.

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STEP THREE

Enroll in The Parent Course.

OurĀ FREE parenting course for teens and tweens is opening soon, enroll now and reserve your spot. The link to the course is inside the m.y.s.e.l.f Journal and Workbook

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FIVE TYPES OF TEEN THAT NEED SUPPORT

 

BREAK FREE FROM THE PATTERNS THAT LIMIT CONNECTION WITH YOUR TEEN AND TWEEN.

 

One of the ways you can help your teen through the rocky road of adolescence is to understand your relationship with them. With some insight, we're often able to spot patterns in our relationships that limit connection or communication. Once we understand these patterns, we can implement new approaches to our relationship that promote loving, healthy and secure ways of relating.  

The Five Types Of Teenagers That Might Need Parental Support

 

PARENTING PATTERNS

 

Teenagers are bombarded by influences that might impact their behaviors and attitudes at home or school.   One of the things psychologists and mental health professionals have known for decades is that teenagers can be very reactive to the style of parenting they experience at home.  

Our parenting style quiz is designed to help parents identify approaches to parenting that might be impacting your teen. 

PARENT PATTERN 1

THE DRONE PARENT

The Drone Parent is a variation of the Helicopter Parent but refers to a more distant type of hovering. Like the Helicopter parent, they are anxious and fearful, and monitor their children as a way to control that fear. The Drone Parent monitors from a distance, so they might monitor online or observe their child over webcams instead of hovering over them in the playground. 

PARENT PATTERN 2

THE JELLYFISH 

PARENT

The jellyfish parent is a permissive parent. This type of parent often has very few rules or expectations and often overindulges their children. This is often due to a dislike or inability to set boundaries and have consequences when boundaries are broken. They go with the flow, and lack the backbone (hence jellyfish) to impose limits. 

PARENT STYLE 3

THE FREE RANGE PARENT

 This is the parent who constantly forces obstacles out of their child's path. They are focused on their child's future success but often deprive their child of learning experiences when they are not able to hold their own boundaries when it comes to seeing their child struggle or have difficulties. 

PARENT PATTERN 4

THE SNOW PLOW PARENT

This is the parent who constantly forces obstacles out of their child's path. They are focused on their child's future success but often deprive their child of learning experiences when they are not able to hold their own boundaries when it comes to seeing their child struggle or have difficulties. 

PARENT PATTERN 5

THE LIGHTHOUSE PARENT

This is the parent who approaches parenting in a very balanced and healthy way. They are clear with their children about how much they care and love their child AND that they need to protect, set limits, and monitor their child.

 

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Take the Parenting Teens and Tweens Quiz today and you will receive your free invite to enroll in the free course on parenting from My People Patterns.  The FORTify Relationship Course provides an overview and on core elements of relationships from a Family Systems perspective:

  • Feelings & Thoughts 
  • Others & Self
  • Reactive Automatics
  • Traps To Communication

You’ll finish this course with a clear idea of some of the patterns in relationships that cause problems and limit connection. Family Systems Theory has been around for decades and is a proven formula to growing great relationships and repairing ruptures. 

The FORTify Relationships Course is free when you buy the   m.y.s.e.l.f Journal and Workbook, the sign-up page is in the first few pages of the book.

WHAT IS YOUR PARENTING STYLE QUIZ

OLIVER DRAKEFORD, LMFT, CGP.

I'm a licenced marriage and family therapist and have worked with teens and families for my entire career. I was the Clinical Director or a residential treatment center for teens and families, and I created a family-focused approach to helping teens. 

I believe that when a teen is struggling, one of the most effective ways to help is through improving family relationships, particularly with parents.  If I can provide parents with the tools and skills to create quality, healthy relationships within the family, the household becomes a foundation in which everyone can flourish and thrive. 

 

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS.

PARENTING TEENS AND TWEENS STARTS HERE

Let's face it, it's just tough being a teen, it's a seemingly endless expanse of figuring out or making peace with an endless battle of internal conflicts. 

  • Not quite an adult, but not still a child.
  • Desperate to push boundaries but still needing structure.
  • Resenting rules but requiring safety
  • Wanting to be free from their family, but needing to feel belonging. 

THE TURBULENT TEEN

The turbulent teen has found a friend or group of friends that might be leaving them astray. This teen might have big mood swings or be experimenting with alcohol or drugs. 

Find out how parenting styles impact this youth by taking the quiz.

THE TIRED-ALL-THE-TIME TEEN

If your teen is literally tired all the time, please make sure there is not medical or physiological causes for these symptoms. Assuming there's no medical causes, the tired all-the-time teen is showing signs of depression, perhaps including a drop in grades dropping and motivation. 

THE REPUTABLE TEEN

The repuTable teen has a family that has provided the most supportive structure possible. There's been love, and nurturing has been balanced, with boundaries and consequences. 

Learn the skills required to ensure your teen has this best-case set-up by signing up and taking the quiz. 

THE TYRANT TEEN

The tyrant teen is ruling the house either through demands or some emotional hostage-taking. Sometimes tyrant teens have taken over the household just by using threats of extreme behaviors like running away.

Often parents feel overwhelmed with a tyrant teen and need support from family therapists. 

THE TIMID TEEN

The Timid Teen could be a bit shy or have some social anxiety at one end of the spectrum, and panic disorders or even agoraphobia at the other end. 

Find out how parenting can impact your teen's anxiety by signing up or taking the quiz.