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The Family Systems Model: Worksheets Interventions, PDFs & Techniques.

 

 

 

Let's face it: family therapy is really hard, frequently chaotic, and often overwhelming.

Having been thrown in at the deep end in an adolescent residential treatment center, my saving grace was turning to theory and devouring everything I could on Structural, Strategic, and Bowen Family Systems.

I totally rely on theory on a daily basis, but sometimes theory is not enough and you need a certain something to bring about some much-needed change in the family you are working with. 

My hope is that on this page, you find both theory AND a little something extra, be it a family systems worksheet or handout, or a new intervention.

Enjoy!

Structural Family Systems

Lets Get Structural

Strategic Family Systems

Coming Soon

Bowen  Family Systems 

I want more Bowen!

 

Family Systems Videos

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Family Systems Training Course: 

Find out about my family systems training course here- it's a step-by-step guide to how i work with families in private practice. 

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Family Systems Models and Theory

Here's how I see it: if family therapy is a journey across a vast ocean, each family's we work with is like crossing at a different time of year - each journey is different, each has its own challenges and opportunities.

It stands to reason then, that therapists, need to be skilled sailors, captains, and a jack-of-all-trades.  If theory is just the map, relying on that entirely doesn't always cut it. We need something more than a map and some wind to get to where we're going... we need GPS!

I really believe that even the most seasoned therapists can find themselves adrift, struggling to translate theoretical constructs into practical, therapeutic progress. This is where we get to be creative and break away slightly from the rigidity of theory. We can blend and create a rich array of interventions and techniques with theory to help navigate the complex emotional voyage we're on with our family and couples clients.

The good news is that if you look hard enough, therapists from the generations before you and I have done the hard work and honed in on some powerful techniques that help us drive things forward with families.

Even more good news is that I've curated some of my favorite and most useful family therapy interventions, worksheets, and activities here on My People Patterns.

 

Top Three Family Systems Videos

Murray Bowen & Bowen Family Systems

The big 8 concepts of Murray Bowen's theory, all in one place, explained in the most colorful way you'll find on the internet. I'm a visual learner - I can't help it!

 

Bowen is NOT Boring!

Structural Family Mapping Technique

My favorite of all tools in the Structural Family Systems toolbox - a total game-changer.I'll teach you how to create a family map and what you cal learn from them

 

Teach Me Mapping

Circular Questioning In Family Therapy

See how I use circular questioning in my first few family therapy sessions to find out more about the system. It's the tool you need to learn right after family mapping.

 

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Top Family Systems Courses

Parenting Styles and Family Structure 

Watch the video and download the accompanying mini-ebook by taking the quiz and signing up for our mailing list.

- Parenting Styles

- Family Structure

- Symptoms of Teens

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Family Sculpting

& Family Portraits

Experiential Family Therapy Techniques: 

 Family Sculpting is the ULTIMATE in experiential family therapy techniques and during Covid, my team and I created a way to do it without the family or a group! Watch this video to see how I do both activities.

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PDF INSTRUCTIONS

Structural Family Systems Therapy: Family Mapping Tool

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- Family Mapping for Clinicians

- Observational Family Assessments

- Family Mapping Intervention

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Working With Teens:

Fusion and Enmeshment

 

Download the 'Shared Belief' Worksheet here, and it's yours to use in your next session. The video (on YouTube and here) explains how to use it, and you'll also get some slides from the video along with instructions and the blank worksheet.

 

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Family Therapy Tools For Clinicians

Words That Work

Words That Work: Transform Your Relationship With Communication Skills With Couples Therapist. Oliver Drakeford, LMFT, CGP. Ever wonder why some conversations with your partner leave you feeling closer while others create distance? The difference isn't just what you say - it's how you say it. As a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a decade of experience, I've developed this course by studying thousands of real conversations between couples. What I've discovered is both surprising and hopeful: Small shifts in how we communicate can create profound changes in our relationships. This isn't just another 'communication course.' Words That Work is a practical, science-backed journey that teaches you: The six hidden reasons we actually communicate (and why understanding them changes everything) How to decode your unique communication style (and work with, not against, your natural tendencies) The exact words and phrases that create emotional safety and a deeper connection Simple techniques to transform complaints into requests that actually get heard How to navigate difficult conversations without triggering defensiveness Exercises and activities to foster more connection. What Makes Words That Work Different:   âś“ No vague advice or clichĂ©s - you'll learn specific words, phrases, and techniques you can use immediately âś“ Based on real couples and honest conversations - not just theory âś“ Practical tools that work even when emotions are high âś“ Designed for both partners to succeed, regardless of communication style âś“ Structured to create lasting change, not just temporary fixes   Who This Course Is For: Couples who feel stuck in the same communication patterns Partners who want to feel genuinely heard and understood Therapists who wish to new tools for their clients Relationships where one person is more talkative than the other Anyone who wants to transform their connections Couples who miss deeper emotional intimacy

$59.99 USD

   

Get the complete guide to Family Mapping that accompanies our video here. 

FREE FAMILY MAPPING PDF

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Family Therapy Interventions: Family Mapping

Family Mapping

Family Therapy Intervention: House Meeting

Family House Meeting

Family Sculpting 

Circular Questioning

Family Therapy Interventions: Family Mapping

Family Projections

Family Therapy Intervention: House Meeting

"I" Statement

Game 

Spaghetti Tower Challenge

Relationship Boundaries Worksheet