Couples Communication Classes from A Marriage Therapist
The Communication Skills, Tools And Techniques To Bring You Closer
The Same Proven Techniques I Use In My Private Practice
- Now Available As An Online Course
Relationship Communication Is Hard
You might be:
- Worried that your conversations have become routine and predictable, making your partner tune out what you're saying?
- Feel like deeper emotions and needs are slipping through the cracks in your conversations, leaving you both feeling disconnected?
- Want to be able to express yourself in ways that make your partner actually hear and understand you instead of getting defensive?
- Struggling to maintain that feeling of real emotional intimacy when life gets busy and communication becomes just about logistics?
- Tired of the same old arguments repeating themselves, wishing you could find new ways to discuss issues that actually lead somewhere?
But there is a solution
Without the right communication skills, relationships become exhausting, frustrating, and lonely.
I created a solution to help couples just like you with Words That Work.
I put a decade of experience as a couples therapist into this online course of videos and PDF's to help people who can't come and see me in my private practice.
Inside Words That Work, you'll discover easy ways to:
- Practical communication tools that create instant understanding, even during heated moments.
- Learn exactly how to express needs and feelings in ways that create connection instead of conflict.
- Understand and break free from toxic communication patterns that keep you stuck in the same old arguments.
- Build deeper intimacy through conversations that actually bring you closer in your life together.
- Transform your relationship from functional to truly fulfilling
Words That Work Is Based On Real Experience.
- Tried and Tested: Everything I teach is the same things I help real couples in my private practice, it's often research based, and I know it works because I've seen couples transform their relationships.
- Experience from the Trenches: Get 10+ years of my clinical experience helping couples move from disconnection to deep intimacy.
- Sustainable Change: Build lasting communication habits that strengthen your relationship over time, not quick fixes that fall apart under pressure.
- Learn the Why, Not Just the What: I don't just give you scripts; I can't help but explain the psychology behind effective communication so you can adapt these tools to any situation.
Words That Work Is The Best Of Our Couples Communication Classes ....
Communication Classes for Couples: The Blocks
by learning how to identify thoughts, feelings, and needs, making it possible to communicate from a place of real understanding.</p
Master Emotional Awareness
by learning how to identify thoughts, feelings, and needs, making it possible to communicate from a place of real understanding.
Build Deeper Intimacy
by learning to identify and express real emotional needs, moving your relationship beyond surface-level conversations.
Learn To Speak Each Other's Language
through understanding different communication styles, so you can finally feel like you're on the same wavelength.
Break Free From Old Patterns
through proven techniques that help you stop having the same arguments over and over.
Teaching You To Create Real Connection
by learning communication tools that make you and your partner actually want to open up to each other again.
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Teaching Communication Skills Is What I Love!
As a licensed marriage and family therapist with nearly a decade of experience, I've spent my career helping couples overcome the very challenges that you might be facing too. I have deepened my understanding of relationship dynamics while working with parents, couples, and families, as well as teaching them it to graduate-level students and other therapists. The best part is that I've compiled all of these teachings into Words That Work to share them with even more people who are hungry to change their relationship patterns.
Did You Know That 86% of Couples Struggle with Communication?
When we analyzed the results from our C.A.R.E & Intimacy Quiz, the findings were startling:
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A whopping 86% of participants scored low to medium in communication. This means that most couples are facing significant challenges when it comes to expressing themselves and truly connecting with their partners.
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48% landed in the medium range, indicating there's ample room for improvement. With a bit of guidance and effort, these couples can enhance how they communicate and strengthen their relationships.
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Only 15% achieved a high score in communication, showing that while effective communication is rare, it's definitely attainable.
Other studies show that couples who participated in communication skills training demonstrated more positive affect, improved communication, enhanced problem-solving behavior, and were less likely to dissolve their relationships compared to control groups. And another study revealed that communication challenges were a primary reason for relationship dissolution.
Communication Skills Can Be Learned
The marriage solution is surprisingly simple: having the right words at the right time. Think about it - how often have you known what you wanted to say, but the words came out wrong? Or wished you could express yourself clearly without starting an argument?
Just like having the right key opens a lock effortlessly, having the right words transforms difficult conversations into moments of connection. When you know exactly how to express what you're feeling, how to respond when your partner is upset, or how to bring up sensitive topics, conversations flow naturally and connection builds.
My clients are often amazed at how quickly things change when they start using words that actually work.
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Module 1: The Foundations Of Communication
In the first module we look at some of the fundamentals of communication in a relationship or marriage, within a very practical way, because nobody likes boring introductions.
The first thing we look at is the values framework. It breaks down the six reasons why people are communicating. When you understand six reasons why people are talking in the first place, it makes miscommunications far less likely to happen.
We also look at what makes communication hard for us. Understanding how culture, society, gender, and family of origin impact where you communicate and how you communicate sets is up for understanding how to improve communication with our partner and all about relationships.
Module 2: Awareness
Awareness in communication is obvious to a certain degree, be it to be aware of two things, our self and the person we are talking to, we also need to be aware of our thoughts, and our feelings.
In this module I teach people how to understand thoughts, feelings, self, and others: a process of differentiation of self and family systems perspective on awareness of our self.
On top of that, all have invisible habits that block meaningful communication—things we do without even realizing it. Maybe you jump in with solutions when your partner just wants to be heard. Or perhaps you change the subject when a topic feels uncomfortable.
In our course, we explore how these patterns show up in a marriage. You'll discover why certain words or actions can shut down a conversation instead of opening it up.
Module 3: Emotional Needs
This module gets to the heart of what drives our communication in relationships. We dive deep into understanding core emotional needs - not just the surface complaints we typically express.
You'll learn in this workshop, how to identify what's really going on when you or your partner are upset. We explore how to dig beneath every day statements like "you never help around the house" to uncover the real emotional needs being expressed - like feeling valued or feeling secure in the relationship.
We also look at taking ownership of our needs instead of blaming our partners for them. This shift from blame to ownership is crucial for turning conflicts into conversations that actually bring you closer together.
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Module 4: Communication Styles
In this module, we discover how different communication styles impact our relationships or marriage. Just like learning a new language, understanding these differences can transform how you and your partner connect.
We explore the spectrum from direct to indirect communication, and from open to reserved expression. You'll learn to recognize your own natural style and understand how it might differ from your partner's way of communicating.
Most importantly, you'll discover how to bridge these differences in healthy ways, without either person having to change who they are fundamentally. This isn't about right or wrong ways to communicate - it's about learning to support, appreciate and work with different styles.
Module 5: Mastering Communication Skills
This module is where we put everything together into practical, useable skills. We focus on specific techniques that create real change in how you communicate with your partner.
You'll learn the art of active listening - not just hearing words, but truly understanding what your partner is trying to express. We explore how to create emotional safety in conversations, so both partners feel comfortable being vulnerable.
We also look at specific words and phrases that work better than others, helping you express yourself in ways that create connection instead of defensiveness. Think of these as your communication tools for handling any situation that comes up in your relationship.
Module 6: Teaching You On How To Create Intimacy
The final workshop focuses on using everything you've learned to create deeper intimacy in your relationship. Using the good old 'Triangle of Love' framework, we explore how communication can strengthen all aspects of your connection.
You'll learn how to maintain curiosity about your partner, even after years together. We look at ways to create meaningful conversations that go beyond daily logistics, and how to ask questions that invite deeper sharing.
Most importantly, you'll discover how to use these communication tools to continuously deepen your emotional connection, creating the kind of relationship that keeps growing stronger over time.
What Blocks Communication?
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Sick of Feeling Unheard and Misunderstood?
Do you feel like no matter how hard you try to express yourself, your partner just doesn't understand? It's frustrating and lonely when you share your feelings but feel unheard, almost like you're talking to a wall instead of the person you love.
Are Misunderstandings Turning into Arguments
Are simple conversations with your partner turning into arguments? Do misunderstandings happen so often that you dread bringing up important topics, fearing they'll just lead to another fight? It can be exhausting and make you feel anxious about communicating at all.
Are You Feeling Emotional Disconnected?
Have you noticed a growing gap between you and your partner? Is the closeness and warmth you once shared fading away, leaving you worried that you're drifting apart? It's heartbreaking to feel the person you love becoming more like a stranger.
A constant feeling of being unheard can lead to growing resentment and emotional distance. You might start to withdraw from conversations, thinking, "Why bother if they won't listen?" Over time, this can erode the trust and intimacy in your relationship. You may feel isolated and unsupported, which can affect your self-esteem and happiness.
Constant arguments can leave you feeling emotionally drained and stressed. The home, which should be a place of comfort, becomes a battleground. You might start avoiding important discussions, allowing issues to fester and grow. This can lead to a breakdown in communication, making it even harder to resolve conflicts.
Emotional disconnection can lead to feelings of loneliness even when you're together. You might begin to question the future of your relationship, fearing that the spark has been lost forever. This can cause anxiety and sadness, impacting your daily mood and outlook on life
